Dating sites for pastors
I happen to also be in the process of becoming a fully ordained pastor.I am starting the process of ordination with the PCUSA. I’ve been in ministry in one way, shape or another for as long as I can remember.Guys seemed to be everywhere, especially during undergrad.I lived in dorms with 125 other girls, all in the same place, all trying to figure out who we were.The boys were readily accessible in the next dorm over.What I didn’t know at the time was the existence of the invisible timeline of how the “Christian woman” was supposed to become a complete person: Then, when said list was finished, I would be an accomplished female of this world and would feel complete.I know how to navigate the testosterone-y waters, and I’m good at it. It actually feels like more pressure, because most Christians have this idea that all pastors must be the “perfect” Christian. I either don’t live up to their standards of being a pastor or I crush their illusion of what it means to be a pastor.
Again, it is not that I don’t want to get married and find a life partner.
Yes, I am strong, I don’t know any other way to be, and I’m not going to apologize for it. It opens up the super-vulnerable topic of a person’s sexuality way too soon and, for me, the topic of how I feel the church has failed on providing me with language for understanding my own sexuality. Enter the overly sympathetic responses from all your married friends… What about instead show you care more about my life as a single person than fixating on how to “get me out” of singleness?
[Tweet “The pastoral vocation is a man’s world, and I am a woman living in it. (I think that may need to be a different post…) I have tried different tactics to avoid letting men know what I do with my life before they actually meet me, wanting them to give me a chance before writing me off as a prude or a power-hungry she-pastor. People have asked, “But what about Christian dating sites? How about asking questions about how my life is going and not assume that I am incomplete without a spouse?
Online dating doesn't correct the well-documented imbalance of devout Christian women (abundant supply) to like-hearted men (a paucity), but it at least widens the net for Christians seeking partners.
It would be foolish, however, to preserve the dating practices of an earlier era, even as an attempt to avoid these dangers. Like work, house construction, and child-rearing, dating is a cultural practice that humans reinvent and adapt to different ...
On a blog titled “A Liberation Theology for Single People,” Cleveland tackles the unbalanced world of the Single Christian: The marginalization of single people in the church is not just a sociological problem; it is also a theological problem.